Friday, February 7, 2014

How To Recognize A Female Midlife Crisis

By Serena Price


The female midlife crisis can catch you by surprise if you have no knowledge of what it is or what to expect from it. Unlike men women do not rush out and purchase a convertible and start running around with men half her age. She is more apt to become depressed and disappointed about her life in general. She may have spent her life looking after children and managing the house and now that the kids are grown she wonders what happened to her expectations and dreams. In short, she may feel empty.

With the depression come other manifestations of her discontent. She might become angry and cold towards her husband and children because she spent her life caring for them. Another option would be to turn the anger inward and punish herself for what she sees as a wasted life.

The age range for this to happen is between forty and fifty years old so they may also be going through menopause at the same time. Hormonal changes in their body add to the problem and can cause them to see themselves as less attractive as a mate. They may become impulsive in their behavior or go on shopping sprees to try to change their image. They can just as easily become discontented with their life partners and seek to break free in some areas.

During this period there will be changes in behavior as well as mood swings. The woman may become a compulsive shopper or become compulsive about her appearance just as easily. This is a period of doubting one's self worth and abilities. Many women in this situation have breast implants or face lifts done and change their mode of dress to look younger.

Needless to say the spouse does not understand what is happening. Things that have always been acceptable have become unacceptable. His wife does not seem to like him any longer and he feels as though he is being rejected both as a friend and a lover. This may very well be the truth but in most cases it is temporary and will pass as his wife transitions through this metamorphosis.

If you recognize what is happening to you this does not have to turn your life upside down. This can be a period of self improvement and an expansion of your image of yourself as a person of worth. Your husband can act as an intricate part of the changes you will make by giving you the support you need and using this time to expand his own horizons.

Working through this period will not be easy for you to do. There will be times when you want to throw up your hands and run away. There may be other times when everything is fine for awhile. Hopefully they will balance out to a happy medium. Try to find the things that bother you the most in your life and find solutions for those specific issues. This will work even if the problems are behaviors of the people who are closest to you.

The female midlife crisis is a life changing event not only for the woman experiencing it but everyone who is close to her will also be effected. Couples can work together to get through this transitional period and become much closer as a result. Knowledge and understanding is imperative for both parties.




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